Jun 18, 2013

What Causes a Person to get ‘Stuck’?

We all get stuck from time-to-time.  Some more than others.  Stuck in a relationship, in a job, in a way of doing something.  How does this happen?  I mean, here we are in 2013 and people have more choices and more options than in the history of mankind.  How does a person get stuck with so many options and opportunities available to them?

Mind Loops and Auto-Pilot

This absolutely amazing thing that dwells within our skulls has built-in mechanisms to save energy.  One of those mechanisms is its ability to generalize information.  Have you ever noticed how your mind is always searching for meaning and what happens when it doesn’t find it immediately?  For instance, pay attention some day and tally the number of times you, or the people you’re around, say or think something about “meaning”.  You might even be thinking right now, “What does he mean by that?”  Exactly!  We say  and think things like, “I wonder what she meant?”, “What does that sign mean?”, “What meaning do those numbers have?”, “I wonder what he meant by that look he gave me?”, and so on.  What the mind is doing is creating these great things called “loops”.  Loops are if/then statements so that the mind doesn’t have to fully consider things after we’ve decided what they mean.  If you get in your car, then you start it up and drive away.  If you see your boss make a certain face, then you know to go the other way.  If you get stressed, then you eat/smoke/use drugs/drink alcohol.  Get the idea?  Once these loops are set and the mind believes it has the correct meaning, then it goes on auto-pilot and doesn’t question the meaning or the loop again.  This is where a person gets stuck.

Why is getting unstuck so hard to do?

Simple.  It’s the easier way to live.  Getting unstuck can be extremely difficult.  Just ask anyone that is hooked on cigarettes, drugs, sex, food, or any number of addictions.  Just ask anyone that keeps getting into relationships that are unhealthy.  Ask anyone that gets depressed.  Ask anyone that suffers from fears, phobias, or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.  No matter how ridiculous it may seem to others, the person that’s stuck in a negative mind loop has an uphill road to climb.

How does a person get unstuck?

Picture a balloon.  You start putting air into it and it slowly fills.  It becomes full and you keep putting more air in.  It stretches and stretches and finally…it POPS!!!  That is one way to get unstuck from a negative mind loop.  For instance, if a person is a yo-yo dieter and they only allow themselves to get up to 175 lbs before they diet back down, I’ll instruct them to go to 200 lbs before they diet back down.  Why?  Just like the balloon, when they look so overweight and they can’t stand the sight of themselves is when the “balloon” pops.  They never want to look that way again and so they keep the weight off.  The same is true of any addiction or habit.  Do an addition or habit to an extreme and the person will come to hate what was once pleasurable.  This is what the very successful people in life do naturally.  They get sick of the things that hold them back in life and get rid of them quickly.  What if you haven’t been able to do it on your own?

As a Master Hypnotist, this is what I do best.  I help people get unstuck by breaking the negative mind loops they have running and replace those with positive mind loops.  I want you to imagine yourself doing things that create success in your life just as easily as you do the things you wish you could get rid of.  If you smoke “automatically” each day, imagine “automatically” being free from stress and being able to naturally focus on the things that bring you success personally and professionally.  If you go into auto-pilot and just start eating for no apparent reason, imagine just as easily and naturally doing the things that make you the person you want to be “for no apparent reason”.  By the way, if you happened to read my blog post titled “How Tiger Woods Made His Comback“, you’ll know that the top five revenue-generating athletes in the world use hypnosis to take them to the top of their game.  So, don’t feel you have to be able to get unstuck on your own to be successful.

If you want the keys to happiness and fulfillment, then getting unstuck is the best place to start.  I am an author, public speaker, along with doing leadership development and salesperson development.  If I can be of assistance to you or your organization, please contact me to discuss how I can be of service.

Creating life in forward motion,

Dr. Edward Lewellen