Jun 02, 2017

Tips, Tools, and Techniques to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking

If you took the brief assessment from my last blog on public speaking, you now have an indication of just how severe you have the fear of it. So, let’s start with the people who have a mild case, because those will have the least amount of work to do.

I once heard Cloe Madanes, of Robbins-Madanes fame (http://www.getrmt.com/) say that she used to tell people that she was shy. But, then it was pointed out to her that shyness is caused by a person thinking more about themselves, instead of those around them.

Because of this re-frame, she overcame shyness and became everything she wanted. The same framework applies to fear of public speaking. Just think about it. What are the thoughts going through a person’s mind when they are first told that they’re going to give a talk? As they prepare the talk? As they get ready to go on stage and on stage? Even after the talk is done?

Here are most people’s primary thought patterns:
What is the audience going to think of ME?
What are they thinking of ME?
And, what did they think of ME?

Do you see the connection? When a person puts all the focus on themselves, that also puts all the pressure on themselves. When you watch great public speakers, you’ll fully realize that they aren’t thinking about themselves. It’s all about the message and their audience. They are watching the audience closely to see that the message is being received as intended and judging that by the audience’s reaction to it.

So, a simple approach in a mild case of fear of public speaking is to put emphasis on the content of the message being delivered and the audience. For some, this may be easier said than done. So…

What if your fear of public speaking in more like most people?

Public speaking makes you feel very uncomfortable. You get nervous and tense and these feelings influence your behavior seriously. Your mind creates a “future memory” where you forget part of your presentation, you stumble in word and with your feet, you sweat so much it’s as if you need sponges attached to you, and so on.
If you’re like this, then the solution above was greeted with sarcasm and doubt. A simple re-frame isn’t the answer. So, what is? When people have a moderate to extreme fear of public speaking, it’s now a matter of their belief system. Somewhere in their mental programming they equate public speaking with negative emotions ranging from fear to terror.

When people hold these deep-seated negative beliefs (Mental Malware) in their unconscious/subconscious mind, no amount of practice, no amount of preparation, and no amount of “rah-rah” self-talk (or talk from someone else) will help. Just as impossible it is to stop a software virus once it’s begun taking over your computer, it’s impossible to stop the fear of public speaking using traditional approaches.

In the event that’s the case for you, then I have quick, effective tools to help eliminate the fear of public speaking from anyone’s belief system. And, these are so powerful that they remove the Mental Malware in about an hour! Now, just imagine what that would be like to make a profound change that quickly!

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+++++++++++++++About Dr. Edward Lewellen++++++++++++++++++++

Dr. Edward Lewellen is an expert in creating methodologies for people to learn to use their mind; their beliefs, thoughts, and behaviors, and put them back in control of their lives and become top-producers. He is a Master Executive Coach, leadership and sales expert, and keynote speaker for some of the largest global organizations.

Author of The 90-Second Mind Manager