Jan 01, 2017

The Problem with Communication – Part I

In a post I read on Stumble.com, the writer shares The Most Commonly Misused English Words, as presented by Steve Pinker, a linguist and cognitive scientist at Harvard University. As a student of linguistics myself, I continue to find it interesting how we humans in the English-speaking world ever get anything accomplished. How can I say that? Consider the following:

  • According to Neuroscience, for each one of our senses, we interpolate about 70% of the information that comes into our consciousness. We “fill-in” information from previous experiences in life and add it to what is currently occurring and even to our memories so that we rarely hear, see, smell, taste, or feel things as they actually exist.
  • The English language has evolved over time from French, Latin, and Greek, and is still evolving. Do you remember when “bad” meant a person was doing things considered wrong? What would you think if someone said you were an Audiophile? Or, what if someone said they were a Gastrosexual, how would that make you feel?
  • We generalize, distort, and delete information to support our current belief system. This has never been more identifiable to me than the Presidential Election held here in the United States in 2016. It didn’t matter which candidate people were supporting, the masses generalized, distorted, and deleted glaring facts and information about each one because they believed their candidate to be the “right one”.
  • Then there are other factors to include, such as, facial expressions, tone of voice, and body language. Neuroscientist V.S. Ramachandran discusses an additional factor discovered by the most recent technology used to research the human brain. He calls it “an underlying element that connects us all”. This is an invisible aura, if you will, that we emit and we “feel” before we intellectualize another person and their intent. This “feeling” is a phenomena you’ve experienced, the one where something just doesn’t seem right about a person or situation and you just can’t identify what it is. Most of the time we choose to ignore this sensation, as we’ve been taught that things like “Intuition” aren’t real, or they are only for people with “special abilities”.

    Would you agree with me that it is astounding that we accomplish anything with all these factors considered? The good news is that there are ways to overcome what could become deficits in the communication we have with others, even with ourselves. I’ll be addressing these deficits and how to overcome them in a series of posts titled, “The Problem with Communication”. These posts are leading up to an event I’ll be scheduling soon in the Dallas/Fort Worth area where I’ll share not only the how-to’s in overcoming communication deficits, I’ll be sharing interesting video clips and role playing exercises to help you communicate more clearly, more quickly, and more effectively.

    Change your thoughts. Change your life…quickly!

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    +++++++++++++++About Dr. Edward Lewellen++++++++++++++++++++

    Dr. Edward Lewellen an expert in creating methodologies for people to learn to use their mind; their beliefs, thoughts, and behaviors, and put them back in control of their lives and become top-producers. He is a Master Executive Coach, leadership and sales expert, and keynote speaker for some of the largest global organizations.

    Author of The 90-Second Mind Manager