Apr 27, 2012

How to Put Joy in Your Life – The Beginning

Joy, happiness, peace, fulfillment; these are emotions that my clients regularly tell me they want to feel.  What they tell me that they’re currently feeling are things like frustration, disillusionment, stuck where they are in life with no options, depression, anger, and many more negative feelings.

Because these emotions are usually all linked together in an overall emotional state, when you find the key to one of the positive emotions, you find the key to all of them.  The same is true for the negative.  You probably are aware that when you start feeling “down”, when you feel a lack of joy, sorrow takes its place, when you don’t feel happy, depression is anxious to replace it, and so on.  So, first, recognize that when we choose to allow room for negative emotions, they gladly step up to take their place in our minds and our lives.  As you may have seen the quote from Viktor Frankl in my book “Creating a Life In Forward Motion“, “Everything can be taken from a person but one thing: the last of human freedoms – to choose one’s attitudes in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” Frankl was right. Attitude is a choice. You could be faced with a thousand problems, but, there is always one thing you are in complete and absolute control of and that is your own attitude.

You may argue that you don’t have control of your thoughts, that your thoughts just come out of nowhere and overtake you.  It does seem that way to most people.  The first thing I had you do was to recognize that when you leave room for negative emotions they will step up and take the place you allow them to be in your mind and life.  The second thing I want you to fully realize is that you do have control over your thoughts.  There are many factors involved, but I believe that we have unintentionally allowed ourselves to become weak-minded.  I’m not going to get into a discussion of what those factors are, because, quite honestly, it doesn’t matter.  What matters is that a person desires to be in control of their thoughts and mental powers again.  With an earnest desire, there is something to work with.

So, this is the beginning to putting joy in your life, recognizing that you can and having the desire to do so.  In my next post, I’ll take you through the next step.

Creating a life in forward motion,

Dr. Edward Lewellen

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