Aug 24, 2012

Life and Business Coaching: “Why can’t we all just get along?”

How many times in life have you heard the statement, “Why can’t we all just get along?

It may have been at a family gathering.  Or, in business, maybe you’re in a meeting and tempers start to flare, or the boss has decided he/she has had enough and is taking an employee to task, or that “one person” seems to always rub you the wrong way,  and so you realize…people just don’t always get along.

And, it’s not that anyone one is a “bad” person.  In fact, it’s usually for a very benign reason; it’s because of the variety of ways we humans process information.

For instance, let’s say that you’re the type of person that speaks quickly, likes to see things to process ideas, and are very goal-oriented.  Then, you’re put together as a team with a person that speaks at a slow pace, filters ideas and concepts through their feelings, and is risk-adverse.  Do you see any challenges here?  For you, things just don’t move fast enough.  Decisions are being held up.  Time is wasting away for no apparent reason.  Frustration sets in.  Eventually, you blow up.  But, it’s not your fault.  They, the other person, did things all wrong.

Now, consider the other person’s view.  They don’t understand why you’re always in such a hurry, afterall, they want to make sure the decisons “feel” right.  Why make a decision when all of the consequences haven’t been considered?  There could be some risk of making a bad decision.

Do you see how these people can grate on each others nerves?

That’s just one example, of many, that can happen.  What have been your experiences?  I would like to hear from you!

Creating a life in forward motion,

Edward Lewellen

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