Apr 14, 2015

Emotional Intelligence (EQ), Mindfulness, and In-the-Zone Therapy – 3


In the previous two posts, I discussed Emotional Intelligence and Mindfulness, drew the connection between the two, and shared how they work together. So, how do people acquire the ability to be “Emotionally Intelligent”? How does one develop Mindfulness?

Since Mindfulness is an ancient religious philosophy, there are many very old writings about it that have been scanned and uploaded to the Internet. Mindfulness courses can be found in abundance on the Internet. Here’s what was written about one course: “Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR), an eight-week intensive course designed to transform your relationship to stress, improve your health and increase enjoyment of life.” I found it a little tongue-in-cheek that it is an “intensive” course on reducing stress. I can imagine the instructor saying, “Hurry up and relax!”

How do you learn Emotional Intelligence? Some people are thought to be born with it. Others need to be taught. Having worked with hundreds of families over many years, I believe parents have much to do with their children and EQ. And, I have seen children from dysfunctional families acquire EQ in spite of their environment because they make a choice to be different. They choose to cultivate empathy and understanding, become self-aware, and the other EQ traits.

Most Emotional Intelligence courses that I’ve investigated require at least 3 days of training. Mindfulness courses last up to 8 weeks. Both require commitment to practicing them until they become an unconscious competence.

What if there was a way to instill the mental dynamics, emotional stability, and other changes needed to acquire Emotional Intelligence and the practice of Mindfulness? And, what if it was able to occur in just 3-4 hours? Imagine…you don’t have to take but a small amount of time away from work and life, which means there are no lost opportunities. And, here are some of the behaviors a person can expect from those few, short hours:

  • Listen to others without judging or making implications
  • Admit mistakes and take personal accountability and responsibility
  • Remain calm under pressure while helping those around them to remain calm
  • Receive feedback and criticism without becoming defensive
  • When coaching others, they connect to the emotions of the other person

    What I’ve just described is the third part of this discussion, In-the-Zone Process/Therapy. When you remember what it was like when you are in-the-zone; the confidence, the energy, the motivation, the personal power, etc. it feels really great, doesn’t it? In those moments, fear doesn’t exist, you feel no pressure, and the world seems to slow down so that you can consider the sights, sounds, smells, tastes, and sensations to a richer and fuller degree. You are in control of every emotion and you become fully aware of yourself. In a moment’s notice, you make the right decision. You can feel an emotion and discover that you can view it as if it’s at a distance (Mindfulness) and choose how to respond for the best possible outcome. This ability brings you concentration power and sensory clarity. Suppose you had all that, now. And, you can wonder how that would make your business and personal life so much more happy and satisfying, can’t you?

    I would love to receive your feedback and answer any questions you may have!

    Creating life in forward motion,
    Dr. Edward Lewellen