Sep 22, 2014

Always Play Like You’re Winning

This time of year is very exciting for sports fans. This is the time of year when you have football in full swing, baseball headed into the playoffs, hockey will start in a couple of weeks, and basketball preseason games start in a couple of weeks, too. You can bet that there will be a lot of arguments and fights and times of euphoria and utter disappointment among the fans.

Of all the teams in all the sports, one of the most memorable comments (at least, to me) came from Chris Peterson, formerly of Boise State. Boise State hadn’t been a powerhouse football team. Suddenly, and seemingly out of nowhere, in 2006 they unexpectedly began a streak of winning, including beating the Oklahoma Sooners in the 2007 Fiesta Bowl and, with an undefeated season going in, beat the TCU Horned Frogs in the 2010 Fiesta Bowl! Here’s where Peterson’s comment becomes relevant. When asked how they had become such a dominant power in college football, he said it was because they always play like they’re winning.

Think about that.

Have you ever watched a sports team, or individual, play out of desperation or ‘playing not to lose’? The difference is extraordinary. The body language, the mental game, and the risk tolerance are totally different. When a team or person is playing ‘not to lose’ there is a hesitancy and weakness in the body language. There are missed opportunities because the mental focus in restricted to not losing. And, risk is avoided to the exclusion of available opportunities that could have won the game. Conversely, teams and people who are playing to win exhibit strong body language, mental confidence and strength, and the willingness to risk to get the reward.

How are you playing the game of LIFE? Are you playing not to lose? Or, are you playing to win? If you find that you’re trying to just keep what you have, then you’re playing not to lose. When you think back to opportunities that you missed out on and wishing you had jumped at the chance, but were afraid, then you’re playing not to lose. When you find yourself wrapping yourself in fear, hesitancy, and trepidation your playing not to lose. Where would the world be if people like Helen Keller, Abraham Lincoln, Hank Aaron, Sigmund Freud, Henry Ford, and so many others, had they played life ‘not to lose’? Each of these failed many times before they had success. In fact, the most successful people fail the most often. They know that each failure is leading them to the success they want. One of the commonalities these people have is they reject the “I Can’t” belief. Why? Because they knew these truths:

Your “I Can’t” beliefs deceive you into believing you cannot change the circumstances of your life.

Your “I Can’t” beliefs also convince you that there are no opportunities or options for you to latch onto.

Your “I Can’t” beliefs also prevent you from experiencing full happiness and total abundance in all areas of your life.

How would your life become different when you get rid of the “I Can’t” beliefs? Would you like to find out? That’s where I can help you. What’s stopping you now from calling me to change your mind tomorrow?

Creating life in forward motion,
Dr. Edward Lewellen